The idea of getting a spouse on a platter of gold is actually a mirage. There are no great spouses on display on life’s shelves. Young ladies who dream of being swept off their feet in an emotional roller coaster type of love without developing their own wifely qualities only build castles in the air. When they eventually do get married to someone, as they settle into the life of matrimony, they discover a whole new world of responsibilities they were never prepared for and it ends badly or they end up suffering for life with someone who merely tolerates them because they do not have what it takes to be a real wife.
Most young men who live under the illusion that women are everywhere and that they are seeking any man who would simply say “hey” so they are made wives who ostensibly make them happy men all their lives are constantly disappointed. These young men, not understanding what being a husband is, believe that they are meant to be served by the women who they marry as wives. They consider marrying a lady a favour done to the female folk which should be reciprocated by slavish service.
Smarting from these unrealistic expectations from both sides, most marriages end up so broken that even if they continue to co-habit as husband and wife, all joy and desire for each other is drained and are overtaken by grief, pain and regrets.
What really should be the best bet in a bid to get a great husband or wife? The primary thing is to define what you want and the kind of family life you want to live. That will help you to identify your kind of man or woman. Having done that, you must take an inward look at yourself and confirm if you have what it takes for such a man or woman to be called yours. That is the essence of pitching your qualities to the man or woman you desire.
THE QUALITIES MEN WANT TO SEE
As a lady who desires the right man for her life, the basic qualities that you must pitch – on a general level – is to first of all be someone who has a handle on her own life. If you have identified your place in life and are heading somewhere with your hands busy about it, real men who have similar orientations are easily attracted to you. Do you have a clear focus on a goal you are in hot pursuit of? Do you have a force of vision that drives all that you do? Do you know that you are on earth for a specific purpose and are on that journey already? No man who sees you and has a correct head on his shoulders will ignore you.
Don’t simply sit around waiting for a man to come over and shower you with “love” while you don’t lift your hands to make your life count. If you find such a man, you would soon be a cast away after your body (which might be what you would have been paying attention to) has been ravished and devoured. If you have nothing to offer as a lady besides a fine face, a coke-bottle shape of a body and a swaggy cat-walk, then you are not ready to attract a real spouse.
THE QUALITIES WOMEN DESIRE IN MEN
Not all women want to jump into the arms of just any man simply because they have a fat bank account, a well furnished house and the latest brand of car. Great women are highly principled and have an idea of where they are going. They will not entertain any man who would just want to have them as a toy in addition to their so-called “accomplishments”. There are men who want to marry certain classes of women just to boast their egos or enhance their status. Others marry beautiful and intelligent women for the purpose of “branding”. This is completely outside the reason why marriage was created.
Purpose driven women want to be with a man who first and foremost care a lot about them. This is beyond the care of getting them gifts and buying them whatever they desire – as important as that is. This care is all-encompassing – they want a man who wants them to be the best that they can be in life and in whatever vocation they are engaged in. Great women seek great men who are heading somewhere for whom they can provide help and assistance to. They want men who can lead them on the path of excellence, growth and values. They want a man who is so secure he can allow them to break glass ceilings in their profession, business and whatever endeavours they are passionate about.
If you are a man who has no handle on what life is and what you can do with yours, seeking a woman should be the last thing on your mind; especially a woman who is purpose driven and is heading to a specific direction. You will get frustrated with her drive and end up frustrating her from pursuing her dreams for fear of being “over-shadowed” because you have no idea about what you should do with your own life.
Before you make a move on trying to get someone to marry you, ensure that you have your game packed with a sound pitch which should make every man or woman you desire gravitate towards you without hesitation. Happy Hunting!